What’s the big deal if people use condoms or artificial birth control? Shouldn’t it be up to me to decide what I use?
For a more thorough explanation, please check out the Humanae Vitae by Pope Paul VI from July 25, 1968.
When a couple has sex, it’s purpose is for bonding and children. Pleasure is an added bonus but not the purpose. We know that women have eggs and men have sperm but those cells are alive. These cells should never be disrespected. Men carry and give as a gift to his bride, billions of live sperm. It says in the Bible that men shall not spill their seed for this reason. Marriage is the proper place to come into the marital embrace because this is the safe and secure and healthiest place to bear children.
Artificial Birth Control comes in two different forms: barrier or chemical. The barrier forms like condoms or diaphragm put a barrier between the couple. “I love you but I want a barrier between us.” This is not a loving thing to say but people say it with their bodies all the time. It does not accept the man’s gift of his total self to his partner. It is rejecting his very self. It also rejects the very essence of the woman’s fertility.
Chemical birth control, such as the morning after pill, the “pill”, the implant, ring, pills used by abortion clinics for abortions, or whatever contains the chemical hormones, is very damaging to the couple and to the woman’s body. It is also an abortifacient that causes the fertilized egg, man and woman’s live cells coming together, to pass through the woman without attaching to the uterine wall. She has an abortion without knowing it. This is a baby! These chemicals don’t cause the prevention of ovulation anymore because the doses are lower now but they prevent pregnancy by causing abortions. She could possibly have an abortion this way every month; twelve per year. This says to the partner, “I love you but I don’t want a part of you to carry on and I only want you as a sexual object for my pleasure.” This is also not a loving thing for a relationship. It also has many side-effects that can harm the woman’s body or even kill her. Take the time to read the side-effect list of some of these products. Some doctors even push these chemicals on us as women. I even overheard a patient wanting the doctor to take out the Norplant in her arm but the doctor refused and sent her away crying in remorse.
You might say then, the Catholic Church just wants us to use the Rhythm Method or have lots of kids, right? No, the Catholic Church does not use the Rhythm Method. That method is from back in the 1930’s, not effective and not scientific. The Catholic Church recommends Natural Family Planning. This is a scientific method that is natural and doesn’t interfere with the couple’s bodies. It lets the couple decide when they want to conceive or when they don’t. It is based on the woman’s fertility signs she has monthly. Many studies have been done and the efficacy rate is over 99%. The divorce rate of couples using NFP is about 3% instead of the national divorce rate of 50-60%. When you respect life in your sex life with your committed marital partner, then you have a loving embrace that allows for love to bloom and if you choose to have children, then it allows for that too, when you are ready. You can find more information about Natural Family Planning at your local Catholic Church, regardless of your religion/faith.